Saturday, 19 January 2013

i am a warrior mother!

So I'm sat here on a lazy Saturday night watching "the matrix". I'm watching the female character, Trinity, kick the ass of the agents ably accompanied by Keanu Reeves and my mind starts wondering...as it does!


I've always had a childish infatuation with warrior women...strong confident kick ass females like Lara Croft inspire me! i once trekked through Guatemala for charity and back packed round Thailand inspired by this xbox boys fantasy. posing non stop with fake gun in my hand whilst scaling volcanoes and dossing on beaches!

Alot can be achieved through role models. Whether these are fiction's or human. Whether they are empowered artifact hunters or Jane Austen heroines we all have to have someone we look up to. Someone we can take strength from. 

Theres a modern day phenomenon called the "warrior mother". An army of women who have chosen to follow the strength of their inspirations and "kick ass" for their families. These women fight tirelessly on a daily basis for what is right. Not politically. Not a feminist movement. Not lobbying the government or staging protests. They are ordinary mothers living extraordinary lives within their own homes, everyday. and what they fight for is their kids. And whats right for their kids.

I've written before in wise words from..rocky balboa? about the habit people have once you get a diagnosis of following that with the words "get ready for a fight" and they are right but perhaps not just in the way they mean it. You see, everyday you fight and battle. With professionals, with schools, with ignorance and with bureaucracy. Even this week I've had my request for Jesse's assessment for sensory processing disorder turned down because she is autistic and therefore hard to assess. But i wont give up. I will fight. Not necessarily with the professionals though. I will research private assessments and i will continue to make a nuisance of myself at the OT departments but most of all i will battle with the autism.

If the professionals wont help me. If ignorance is rife. If people wont listen then i must do it. All of it. And i will. If i cant get the understand and the assistance from an OT to help Jesse with her sensory issues then i must battle like a warrior and gather that knowledge myself. I must dedicate time and money into sensory play, give my time to her to help and assist her. Find out what she likes and don't like so she can calm down and find some peace from time to time.

If Cody needs a photographs taken of every item in the house he may ask for to improve his communication then I'll do that too. If he needs patience and empathy whilst hes kicking and slapping me then its my duty to give him that.

You see, everyday i soldier on for my children to do whats right and in doing so i stand alongside mothers everywhere and declare ourselves warrior mothers. We may not have changed governments legislation, we may not re write diagnosis journals or burn our bras in the street but behind closed doors every day we are fighting the disabilities that live alongside our children to make life better for them.

I don't have to change the world to be a warrior. I don't have to carry weapons tucked in my hot pants to be in battle. If everyday i accomplish something with my own four walls that improves the quality of life for my kids even only for a minute then I'm as kick ass as Lara...I am a warrior mother. 

7 comments:

Downs Side Up said...

Wonderful post. I have bookmarked to share. From one warrior mum to another. H x

mama said...

thank you...that means alot x

Stephs Two Girls said...

you're right, we're al warrior mums. In it together :) maybe not through choice, but we get on with it, eh?! Nice to have found you through the Britmums list x

Lyndylou said...

I loved this post and every day I do just that! What people don't actually understand is that looking after our children is in fact the easy bit, it's battling all the rest daily that is truly exhausting.

mama said...

Precisely...it's about getting through the day having accomplished something, however tiny it may seem to others! You just do it without thinking about it and we should be proud! And wear hot pants!

Anonymous said...

Very touching , i love this and yes ypu are rignt.Iam also a mother with a son with autism,and this post makes me more strong enough in my everyday life.Our kids is a gift from God and He has plan for us.Lets just our faith and keep going.God bless to all of us.

Lauren said...

We are delighted to let you know that this post has been nominated in the ‘Most Inspirational’ post category of the SWAN UK Blog Post Awards (aka The ‘SWANS’)

Be sure to pop over to the SWAN UK website to grab some badges for these categories to encourage your other readers to also vote for you – make sure you let them know which specific posts have been nominated!

If you tweet the SWAN UK twitter account using the #SWANS hashtag with the URL of your blog posts and the category you have been nominated for we will retweet it for you and hopefully get you some new readers.

Good luck!

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